How to Make Room for a New Beginning by Letting Go of The Past

The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past.

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Marie Kondo is an organization expert. Her mission, in part, is to bring order to people's lives by helping them let go of the things in their life that don't ‘spark joy.' She encourages people to part with the possessions that no longer serve them.

It's an idea backed by science. A 2011 Princeton University study found that decluttering improves overall well-being. The study found that getting rid of things expands our clarity and focus. It helps us restore our mental health. It creates space for the things we want in life.

What if we could declutter more than our old stuff? What if we could let go of our past by decluttering the painful experiences, limiting beliefs, and unhelpful narratives that no longer serve us? What if, by releasing your past, we make room for a new beginning? Sounds great! But letting go of the past is easier said than done.

Why is it so hard to let go?

While new beginnings can be fun and exciting, they also create uncertainty. The past is known and familiar. It's comfortable to stay there, and we can get stuck there. Uncertainty creates fear. Fear is like an anchor that keeps us tethered to a safe harbor when we could be out experiencing a new voyage.

If you struggle to release the past, here are a few tips to encourage you to pull anchor, set sail, and discover a new adventure for yourself.

The process of letting go of the past begins with permitting yourself to let go. Instead of forcing yourself to “just get over it” or “move on, already,” perhaps a gentler approach is in order. Here's a more positive, healing dialogue you can experiment with: “___ happened. I feel ___. I learned ___. Now it's time to release the part of my past experience that no longer serves me so I can make space for something new.” It's harder to let go of something if you don't give yourself the go-ahead to do so. Remember, the longer you hang on to the past, the harder it will be to let go.

Now that you've permitted yourself to let go, it's time to acknowledge and give gratitude for your past. Letting go isn't about denial, repression, or downplaying the significance of your past life experiences. Instead, you are shining a light on the benefits you've received. It's easier to let go of the past when you pay tribute to it. Honoring your history's role in helping you become the person you are is a great reminder that everything has a purpose.

What's one thing you're willing to say thank you and goodbye to make space for something new?

Forgiveness is another critical part of letting go. The first step in forgiving is accepting what happened. It can be difficult and painful. That's only natural. Once you've accepted the past, allow yourself to feel all the emotions it brings up. Then you can forgive and move forward. This process doesn't mean condoning wrongdoings. It means shifting the focus to your well-being, not the transgression or transgressor.

While you're at it, how about forgiving yourself?

We can be so hard on ourselves – beating ourselves up for past mistakes, failures, regrets, decisions that didn't pan out, or goals we failed to reach. Enough. You did the best you could. Now that you know better, you can do better. Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. You're worthy of forgiveness. Forgiving yourself and others is like unpacking emotional baggage – it frees up room to experience the new feelings that a fresh start will bring.

Giving yourself permission to let go of the past, honoring the past, and forgiving yourself is a gift to yourself and the other person. Instead of being stuck in the past, you can focus on inviting new beginnings into your life.

The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don't.

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The past is over. We can't alter it. But, once we acknowledge it, we can honor it. By honoring it, we pave the way for letting go and moving forward.

Coming to terms with the past to move forward is not always easy, but , but it’s definitely worth it, and so are you!

Are you struggling with letting go of the past and moving forward with your life? Every day can be a new beginning to creating an amazing future full of more joy, love, and happiness. If your ready to get started schedule a complimentary thirty minute consultation.