While new beginnings can be fun and exciting, they also create uncertainty. The past is known and familiar. It's comfortable to stay there, and we can get stuck there. Uncertainty creates fear. Fear is like an anchor that keeps us tethered to a safe harbor when we could be out experiencing a new voyage.

If you struggle to release the past, here are a few tips to encourage you to pull anchor, set sail, and discover a new adventure for yourself.

The process of letting go of the past begins with permitting yourself to let go. Instead of forcing yourself to “just get over it” or “move on, already,” perhaps a gentler approach is in order. Here's a more positive, healing dialogue you can experiment with: “___ happened. I feel ___. I learned ___. Now it's time to release the part of my past experience that no longer serves me so I can make space for something new.” It's harder to let go of something if you don't give yourself the go-ahead to do so. Remember, the longer you hang on to the past, the harder it will be to let go.

Now that you've permitted yourself to let go, it's time to acknowledge and give gratitude for your past. Letting go isn't about denial, repression, or downplaying the significance of your past life experiences. Instead, you are shining a light on the benefits you've received. It's easier to let go of the past when you pay tribute to it. Honoring your history's role in helping you become the person you are is a great reminder that everything has a purpose.